My mother-in-law has been visiting with us for over a week now. Don't get me wrong. Ours isn't exactly the stereotypical relationship. She is almost like I imagine a real mother to be. Except when she is mad at me. Then she becomes the 'mother-in-law' from hell. See the thing is her unhealthy (I think) relationship she has with her daughter, her daughters children, and now their children. The only reason she came down was because of a death in the family. My sister-in-law actually called her while were were 100 miles from our home at the funeral to ask when she was leaving. She was not happy to find that to conserve fuel we had taken one vehicle. Meaning they would have to bring us home before making the journey home themselves.
I know the mother-daughter relationship is strong most of the time. I have a daughter too after all and she has never been far from me, but my goodness the woman has six surviving children. Speaking of my daughter, she is the oldest grandchild yet feels like her Maw-Maw doesn't love her (she says hates her). Most first grandchildren hold a special place kind of above the rest, you know? That was my position with my grandparents as the oldest grandchild. Not so with my daughter who is outspoken and has been known to use the truth as a weapon. All traits my mother-in-law finds disagreeable. So my daughter always finds herself feeling rejected by one of the people who should love her madly.
It is definitely one of the many times throughout my life when I am not the least bit envious of anyone with parents. I know that my husbands mother loves me. I mean I have been a part of the family since I was fourteen. I do tend to grow on people I guess. The thing is, she is his mom and not mine. I do not have one to drive me crazy and make my daughter cry. You know what I am thankful for that.
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